After writing yesterday about comments that are upsetting or downright rude, I have been unable to escape the memory of that guy at the party who said I should consider stage 4 cancer as an opportunity to contribute to science. The words echo, and it makes me wonder how many others have heard comments from others that are bordering on rude. Ones, like Anne Marie Ciccarella mentioned in her post about having this disease because we are not praying hard enough or it’s nice that you’re getting this time off work. The list is surprisingly long and varied when I think of my own three-year experience with metastatic breast cancer.
The reason I bring it up again is to continue Anne Marie’s challenge for input or just to vent. Please share comments that have riled you up or which seem to go undetected as rude by some who defend those who deliver them as just not knowing what to say. My suggestion to such insensitivity: silence. Maybe some moms were burdened with too much to teach their children that instead of saying something that might be rude, it would be best to keep one’s mouth shut. My mom sure taught me that lesson, and I was at times one who was an unwilling learner.
Think back and please share comments that stung or enraged or otherwise left a bad taste in your mouth as well as your reaction or the reactions of others with you. I am sure most of us have one or two examples that pop into the mind quickly. After all, I don’t think any of us have escaped, at least, the suggestion that our cancer might not get us because we could very well be struck by that veering bus of doom. I wonder whether that bus is pink. Just sayin’.5 6 7 8 © 2004–2012 Donna Peach. All rights reserved.